What guys don’t understand about women

10 things guys do not understand about girls

Women. Can’t live with them, can’t understand them to save your life. There are many things about women that confuse us guys to no end. In the spirit of Sex Week, the one person on the College Life staff with a Y chromosome has compiled a list of general female characteristics that annoy the hell out of the majority of the male population. Again, these are general trends seen in many females. Just because it isn’t true of you in particular doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

10. You never say what you mean

Girls regularly dance around the issues and avoid saying what they actually think. Why? I wish I could tell you.

9. You expect us to read your mind

Related to the above item, women have a habit of not only beating around the bush; sometimes they deny there even is a bush to beat around. You’ll tell us that nothing is wrong when there obviously is, and only admit it after extensive inquiry. If we make the mistake of believing you when you tell us you’re fine, you get even more pissed off. We won’t know what you’re upset at us about until you tell us. Not even single guys are safe from this phenomenon; getting a date is a gauntlet of guessing her intentions and level of interest, and of course asking her would make you seem creepy.

8. You think that when we’re quiet, we suddenly hate you

Mostly but not strictly limited to couples; it seems like women get the idea in their head that if a guy isn’t saying anything, he’s pissed at her about something. This is, of course, ridiculous. But it doesn’t stop many girls from making a habit of adopting the erroneous thought process. And ladies, constantly asking us if something is wrong, especially if we’re simply in a thoughtful or quiet mood, will bother us more quickly than any imaginary slight you think you may have committed.

7. You think your interests are more valid than ours

“I love shopping and talking gossip with my friends! Sports and video games? That’s so stupid!” I don’t think much more needs to be said here. Now, to be fair, we’re about as likely to think negatively of your interests as you are to do the same of ours. However, we men do not generally maintain a sense of superiority about how we choose to occupy our time.

6. Your friends’ opinions of us are more important than your own

If a girls’ friends don’t like you, it’s pretty much game over, bud. However, if your friends don’t like your girlfriend, well, that’s their problem, isn’t it?

5. You think you have the right and capability to change us

Just think about this one for a second. A girl will constantly nitpick at her man about his hair, clothes, clothes, ect. He can’t cut his hair or grow it out the way he likes with her permission. In the best case, she’ll fuss about it for a while before finally getting over it.

“You can’t go out like that! Wear the shirt I picked out for you! Those shoes don’t work for you! That suit looks awful on you!”

It goes on like this in the worst cases. A woman will assume her opinion is needed and interject it when she sees fit.

Some women will say that they just want what’s best for their guy, or that they want them to be the best possible version of themselves. But imagine if a man acted the same way. He would be a controlling jerk, right? How dare he try to change her! He should appreciate her for who she is!

Hypocrisy is not a good color for you, ladies.

4. You’ll lie to someone’s face to make them feel better

I personally find it baffling how little honesty matters to most women. I’m sure I’m not the only man who feels this way. If you disagree, please feel free to tell me so. Seriously, I can handle it. I’ll try not to cry too loudly. Just make sure you compliment my purse first to soften the blow.

3. You demand equal treatment, but expect us to buy everything

This is something of a hot-button issue for me. As I like to say: chivalry is dead and feminism killed it.

Most women will tell you that the man should pay for the first date. And that is fair enough. I can understand that to an extent. However, when moving on to the third, fourth and fifth dates and so on, it is grossly unfair for the woman to expect to be treated to a date every single time they go on one, especially if she suggested the date in the first place. Going dutch (splitting the bill) or taking turns paying is more than fair. The modern strong and independent female does not expect to be taken care of.

2. You whine about petty crap and do nothing to fix it

Oh boy, where to start. You see, anybody who’s taken a psychology class can probably tell you that women are prone to expressing themselves during times of stress and want most to be understood. On the other hand, men are more prone to attempting to find solutions. Essentially, women vent, men attempt to resolve. If there are no solutions present, we tend to just more or less let it go.

However, women think rather differently. To women, almost everything is a big deal at least for a little while. Here’s a tip, ladies. If you’re upset about something, ask yourself what you can do about it. Nothing? Well, then stop freaking out and get over it. Congratulations; you are now thinking rationally (like a man).

1. You say you want to meet “nice guys”, but friend-zone each one who hits on you

And now we get to arguably the biggest problem with the typical modern American woman. Everybody knows that girl. The one who is constantly hooking up with scummy guys who don’t treat her right. In most cases, these girls have such severe and deep-seated self esteem and trust issues, that she thinks that being mistreated is the only way guys will pay attention to her. Or perhaps they are simply painfully shallow and go for the vain guys who take good care of themselves but could care less about whichever woman they happen to be stringing along at the time. Some women get so used to being mistreated that they start to overlook the genuinely thoughtful and sensitive guys who actually like them.

The real problem arises when the girl tells her friends (female and male) “I just wish I could meet a nice guy” when she knows easily five respectable but somewhat shy or introverted guys who would kill for the chance to appreciate her.

Ladies, if you really want to meet “nice” guys, it’s not as hard as you think. Learn to love yourself first, be a better judge of character, and give the quiet ones a chance.

KentWired Readers: Make sure to check the College Life section tomorrow for the rebuttal to this article: 10 things girls don’t get about guys.

Of course, comments are welcome and encouraged. Feel free to add to, discuss and dispute the list.