Domestic violence is more than gossip

MarchaŠ Grair

Domestic violence is a serious problem that skirts below the average person’s social consciousness. Many victims of domestic violence deal with the repercussions of abusive relationships every day. Their stories remain silenced in a society that doesn’t know how to discuss such a severe and sometimes dead issue.

Robin Fenty reported domestic violence between her and her boyfriend, and the world had to take notice. The public altercation she had with her boyfriend was more than just a fight, but a news headline.

Fenty is better known for her stage name – Rihanna.

Instead of singing one of her chart-topping hits at the Grammys, the performer and her high-profile beau, Chris Brown, were answering to authorities. The pair was seen arguing outside of a Lamborghini at around 12:30 a.m. the morning of the Grammys, according to Fox News. Rihanna made a report that she was attacked, and Brown was arrested that day.

Brown was released on a $50,000 bond, but the future career of the hip-hop prince may be nonexistent.

I usually don’t pay attention to celebrity gossip, but this circumstance brings a very important issue into the public dialogue.

It is obvious from what I read on Web sites and hear on the radio that many don’t understand the reality of domestic violence.

A radio station in Cleveland banned Brown’s music until the issue is resolved to show a strong stance against domestic violence. Callers phoned in to give their opinions about the station’s decision.

One caller’s response still replays in my mind. A young woman said the whole thing was probably Rihanna’s fault, and she had to have done something to provoke his attack.

For a woman to entertain such a thought and believe in it enough to voice it on public radio is disturbing at the least.

I wasn’t in the car with the couple when the altercation happened, but if Brown is guilty of this attack, there is no excuse. Maybe Rihanna dumped him. Maybe she cheated on him. The rumor mill will continue to turn.

One thing will not change, no matter how many times this particular story evolves.

There is no excuse for domestic violence.

Celebrities lose the luxury of their privacy when they become famous, but sometimes their experiences can help to educate the public.

“Nice guys” like Brown aren’t always as nice as they seem. Those who commit domestic violence do not have a specific race, age or gender. Women like Rihanna who are successful and beautiful still subject themselves to unhealthy relationships.

In 2006, more than 100,000 people received domestic violence services in Ohio, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

This is a real problem, and many victims don’t have the resources or the support to come forward.

As new celebrities and new scandals hit the headlines, this incident will fade into the background. We all need to remember, however, that domestic violence is more than just gossip.

MarchaŠ Grair is a junior electronic media major and columnist for the Daily Kent Stater.