Opinion: Get it, got it, no good
October 27, 2011
If you’re up-front and honest from the beginning, you’ll avoid more awkward situations in the end. Yes, this isn’t rocket science, but a lot of people may lead others on because they’re afraid to hurt their feelings.
There’s some sense of heightened emotions in society these days. If you don’t like someone, you’re very much not afraid of letting him or her know to back the hell up and never utter a word in your direction again.
But in contrast to that, a lot of people are too scared and intimidated to stand up for themselves and say what they’re thinking because of how it will affect the recipient of said actions.
I’m not saying to be completely insensitive to others’ feelings, but if I would have just said, “I don’t want to be your girlfriend, so leave me the hell alone about it,” to that guy, my good friend, I would have squashed the issue right away.
But what if you’re the person who can’t get over it? What if you’re into your close friend and refuse to let it go? Or just slept with someone and feel a connection but know it doesn’t go both ways?
I sincerely have no suggestions. You can’t change a person’s feelings or even the person. Just get over it while you’re still young and not attached to anyone.