Book gives tips to better yourself and your love life

Finding a prince has been a focus for almost every woman who has ever read fairy tales. Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty may have corrupted women’s thoughts of the perfect man, but the record is finally being set straight.

“Frog or Prince? The Smart Girl’s Guide to Boyfriends,” written by Kaycee Jane, is a book that I recommend to every woman. With inside tips on how to distinguish between a frog or prince, Jane focuses on how women should understand themselves and find personal empowerment in order to find their prince.

The beginning of the book centers on the reader and how she should focus on finding herself before finding her prince. Readers learn what traits they have, what needs they have and what needs need to be fulfilled by a relationship through the book’s interactive quizzes.

Throughout the book, there are short tips called, “Heart-Saving Shortcuts.” These shortcuts are mini-guides or humorous suggestions on how to live life, including “Life is a mirror. . . Life has a way of bringing us exactly what we believe we deserve. Or, more accurately, we let people into our lives and create situations for ourselves that reflect what deep down we think we are worth,” as Jane states.

Jane focuses on all personal relationships: relationships with ourselves, romantic relationships and friendships. Throughout the book, Jane stresses that what kind of friend you are and what you need in a friendship are some important parts of understanding yourself.

There are four main characters in which the author plays out different relationship situations. Natalie, Meghan, Ella and Elizabeth are followed through their relationships. They gain skills to determine their fr1ogs from their princes and which guy is right for them.

Meghan falls in love with Jordan but uses her skills at distinguishing between frog or prince to break up with him. Natalie breaks her cycle of dating frogs and bad relationships. Ella begins to grow in self-confidence and trusts to her instincts to get rid of her frog. Finally, Elizabeth learns to accept and builds a relationship with her prince. By the end of the book, each character is empowered by their experiences and builds better relationships in the future.

“Frog or Prince? The Smart Girl’s Guide to Boyfriends” is Jane’s first novel and a good one at that. It shows women how to identify their needs and make decisions in order to get those needs met. Focused on creating a beautiful life for its readers, “Frog or Prince?” shows a woman how to set her bar, use the Frog/Prince chart, get out of a frog trap and deal with lovesickness.

The book is a guide for any woman who wants to better her life and develop the skills necessary to live a beautiful life. It is a must-read for any woman with the desire to understand herself and her relationships. With the Frog or Prince tool, any woman can find her prince and live the modern fairy tale.

Love and relationship advice from Rebecca Mohr’s e-mail interview with “Frog or Prince” author Kaycee Jane

Why did you write “Frog or Prince?”

I saw my daughter holding the hand of a frog, who she thought was the guy of her dreams. I knew in an instant she either lacked information or a sense of her value – both of which I’m responsible for – so I tackled both in the writing process. I believe when you know better, you do better.

Do you feel it is important for women to distinguish between their own frogs or princes? Why?

Yes! Because life gets a whole lot easier with no frog to trip you up from the doing in your life. Look at the relationships in your life. Some are simply a ‘beautiful thing,’ some hold you back or even hurt you. And hurt feelings are like warning signals that tell you that person can’t meet your needs and/or isn’t able to treat you with enough respect to clear your bar.

Are any of your main characters based off of true people?

The girls in the book are based on snippets from real experiences from my own life together with snippets from the lives of my girl friends. During the writing process I came to care about all the girls in the book, and they became real to me. The main characters were also influenced to a certain degree by popular culture and the opinions of others; this is because we learn and grow, if we’re paying attention to what is happening around us.

How does knowing yourself benefit finding a prince?

If you don’t understand what your needs and pet wants are, you won’t be able to even choose a guy who will help you to meet them.

Do you think a lot of girls are struggling to accept their prince like Elizabeth? Why can they not accept their prince?

We choose frogs or struggle to accept a prince for the very same reasons. We don’t have enough information (skills or tools), or we don’t love and respect ourselves enough to do so. The latter, some people can’t accept good things that come to them. Even if they have worked hard to earn them, they often don’t believe, deep down, that they deserve such things. Accepting and embracing happiness in any form, all starts with loving, respecting, trusting and knowing ourselves. Everything else flows from that.

Why is finding love so difficult?

Let’s first define ‘finding love’ as finding a relationship where one loves and is loved, so there are two halves to ‘finding love.’ Finding love is difficult for more reasons than anyone could possibly list. One big reason: One can only ever know or be responsible for one’s own feelings. We have no control over the ‘being loved’ part, which is entirely in the hands of our partner. This brings things like trust and respect into two sets of needs (pet wants) and feelings. Relationships take work. Over time, working at love turns out to be a lot more difficult than finding love in the first place.

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