Opinion: Is she interested?

Kyle Lindemann

Look for these IOI’s (on your first encounter): if she re-initiates a conversation when you stop talking, she asks if you have a girlfriend, she twirls or plays with her hair while you’re talking, she tries to impress you or tell you how good she is at certain things, she compliments you, she touches you, she squeezes your hand back when you squeeze hers first or if she texts or calls you before you do.

Now, you should be a gentleman and be the one who usually (at first) does the texting and calling. But if she starts calling or texting you out of the blue, she’s definitely interested. Trust your gut. Realistically, what’s the worst that could happen? You get denied and she just wants to be friends? That’s okay. Don’t chase them, replace them. Nobody bats 1.000, not even me.

If you do get her number, take charge. Never ask a girl what she wants to do on your first time out with her. That shows weakness. When asking her out, already have a plan in your mind of what you want to do or where you want to take her. Don’t give her any inkling of uncertainty.

Women above all else value stability. They want a man who is sure of himself, makes them feel secure and will protect them when push comes to shove. If you ask her what she wants to do, she will subliminally think you are insecure and that you don’t know what you want. She might become less interested. Already have it figured out before you ask her. Not doing so is just a recipe for disaster. It’s like breaking the huddle in a football game and lining up at the line of scrimmage not knowing what the next play is going to be.